Yesterday we sought to identify the source of our conflict with others.  We identified that our own lusts entice us to sin (James 1:14-15).  In chapter four, James makes plain the fact that our desires that are the cause of conflict.  We want something so badly that we are willing to sin in order to get it.

In seeking to answer the X-Ray questions, “What do you love? Hate?” and “What do you want, desire, crave, lust, and wish for?  What desires do you serve and obey?” hopefully you were able to pinpoint certain lusts that drive you toward sin.  It was (and is) a valuable exercise for me to examine my heart in such a way so as to say, “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me and know my thoughts; and see if there be any hurtful way in me.  And lead me in the everlasting way” (Psalm 139:23-24).

Now that we’ve identified what lust is and what we specifically lust after, what do we do with it?

I believe we should turn to Scripture to answer that question.  2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.”  No method I share with you will be adequate.  You must first look to the Word of God and see what it says.  The application will look different from one woman to the next.  So let’s examine what the Word says about what to do with lust.

We saw in 1 John 2:15-17 that these lusts are not from God and that they pass away.  Later in James chapter four, he calls the people to whom he is writing “adulteresses” asking, “…do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God?  Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”  Therefore, it is clear that we cannot continue to lust and please God.  In fact, in 2 Timothy 2:22, Paul issues the command to flee from lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace.

So in a nutshell, there’s our answer!  In Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, he defines the word “flee” as “To run with rapidity, as from danger; to attempt to escape; to hasten from danger or expected evil.”  So we should be running as fast as we can away from lust.  But should we run aimlessly or with purpose?  And to what do we run?

Here are few practical tips of what to pursue when fleeing lust, straight from the Bible:

1.  Pray.

“With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, be on the alert with perseverance, and petition for all the saints.”  Ephesians 6:18

“Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving.”  Colossians 4:2

2. Walk in the Spirit.

“But I say, walk in the Spirit, and your will not gratify the desires of the flesh.”  Galatians 5:16

“…do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.”  Romans 8:4

3.  Hide God’s Word in your heart.

“I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you.”  Psalm 119:11

“Let the Word of Christ richly swell within you…” Colossians 3:16a

4.  Practice righteousness.

“…but present yourselves to God, as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.”  Romans 6:13b

5.  Take your thoughts captive to Christ and fill your mind with truth.

“We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ…” 2 Corinthians 10:5

“Stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth…”  Ephesians 6:14

“Finally brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence, and if anything worthy of praise, think on these things.”  Philippians 4:8

6.  Hope in Christ.

“…fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.”  1 Peter 1:13

“He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?” Romans 8:32

“And my God shall supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:19

“…and though you have not seen Him, you love Him, an though you do not see Him, you believe in Him, you greatly rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory, obtaining as the outcome of your faith the salvation of your souls.”  1 Peter 1:8-9

Sister in Christ, will you join me in pursuing righteousness by putting to death our fleshly lusts?  Think of how this will bless our husband, children, and other relationships!  Think of how many conflicts we can avoid!

“What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you?  Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members?  You lust and do not have; so you commit murder.  And you are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel…”  James 4:1-2

When you have conflict with your spouse, children, extended family, or friends, do you spend time evaluating the cause of the conflict?  Do you chalk it up to the other party’s sin or your own?

I have read the above verse in James many times and have understood that my own pleasures are the source of conflict.  But I recently came to a much better, deeper understanding that I wanted to share with you.  I hope that as you read, you will be encouraged to examine your own heart and will experience God’s grace as you strive for holiness!

In recent struggles with sin in my own life, I have recently found myself reading James for wisdom.  Thankfully, the Lord also Sovereignly planned for our pastor in our local congregation to be teaching through James, too!  Not too long ago, he touched on the very verses I had read earlier that particular morning:

Let no man say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God; for God cannot be tempted

By evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone.  But each one is tempted when he is carried away

and enticed by his own lust.  Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin

is accomplished, it brings forth death.”  James 1:13-15

As I read this text, it clicked with the help of the Holy Spirit, what the real source of my temptation is!  For years, I believed it to be the enemy tempting me with various things.  But, James clearly says that the source of my temptation is me!  My own lust is enticing me.  Wow.  This was eye opening and a huge help in my daily pursuit to kill sin.  I realized that the way to kill my sin is to put my lusts to death.  There are examples in Scripture of people being tempted by the enemy, and Paul even encourages us to prevent him from tempting us.  But with what will he lead us into temptation but our own lusts?

This led me to ask a few seemingly obvious questions:  what is lust and what do I lust after?  Lust isn’t just what men struggle with in relationship to women.  It is a universal sin, manifesting itself in various ways.

I use the Keyword Study Bible that I’ve had since college (I’ve had it for about 10 years, believe it or not!)  I love it for several reasons, one of which is that it has Hebrew and Greek definitions in the back of my Bible for many words.  In James 1:14, the word “lust” is underlined so as to indicate that in the Greek, there is a far more specific explanation as to what it is.  So, I looked it up and here is what I found:

The Greek word for lust, “Epithumia” is defined as “the active and individual desire resulting from the diseased condition of the soul (pathos), an impulse (orexis); lust.”

I then looked up “orexis” and found its meaning:

“Appetite, lust, or concupiscence.  It is always the reaching out after and toward an object with the purpose of drawing it to itself and appropriating it.”

Next, I decided to go through a series of questions that my pastor is calling “X-Ray Questions” which are from David Powilson’s book, “Seeing with New Eyes.” Answering one question a day provides enough to meditate on and pray through, so I began with question number one:

“What do you love? Hate?”

I know what my answer should be:  God’s Word, His glory, His people, righteousness, my enemies…but if I’m brutally honest, often times, this is not the case.  It is especially not the case when I am experiencing conflict.  Usually, I desire something else more than I desire to see God glorified or to put the others’ desires or needs above my own.  This has helped me to pinpoint specific lusts or desires in order to evaluate whether or not they are God-glorifying.  It just so happens that many of them (not all desires are sinful or are a source of conflict) have been a cause of conflict in my life!  It has been helpful in rooting out sin and pursuing holiness in each realm and relationship in my life.  I certainly have a long way to go, but I have started.  I quickly found that the second “X-ray Question” is also helpful in evaluating my heart during a conflict and in evaluating whether or not to approach someone about something that could ensue in conflict:

“What do you want, desire, crave, lust, and wish for?  What desires do you serve and obey?”

It really goes hand in hand with the first question, but gets more specific.  Answering this question has helped me to especially recognize pride in several areas of my life.  It has been humbling and has reminded me of my need to walk by the Spirit, take my thoughts captive and of my need to meditate on Scripture.

The following verses from 1 John 2: 15-17 came to my mind when I was seeking to answer these questions:

“Do not love the world, not the things of the world.  If anyone loves the world,

the love of the Father is not in him.  For all that is in the world,

the lust of the flesh,

and the lust of the eyes,

and the boastful pride of life

is not from the Father, but is from the world.  And the world is passing away,

and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God abides forever.”

So, if I am following after my lusts, I love the world and the things of the world.  Lord, help me to love You and Your Word!

So where are you?  Are you aware of the lusts that cause you to sin?  Check back tomorrow when we examine what to do with these lusts that so easily steer us.